I’ve been thinking a lot recently about blogging identity, and questioning whether I made the right decision to blog publicly rather than anonymously.
I didn’t give it much thought when I started my blog, I’m not sure that I was even aware that there was such a thing as anonymous blogging. From the word go I put myself and my family out there for all to see. Names, pictures, personal (ish) information, it’s all there.
I was happy enough with that. I didn’t really stop to think about the implications of sharing my family with the world.
Blogging is a funny old thing. I spend most nights sitting at my laptop, carefully constructing posts. When I hit publish a range of thoughts flash through my head… does the post make sense, will anyone read it. While one of my main reasons for starting a blog is to document the kids lives so they can read it in many years and see how much mummy loved them, that is not my only reason, or I think I would have just made a scrap book for them. When I hit publish a little part of me is hoping that someone will read my writing and enjoy it.
The funny thing is though, the first time someone I know told me they loved my blog I felt a bit taken aback. Embarrassed even….
It’s such a strange feeling, to know that actual real people are reading what you are writing.
And then things get awkward… how do your pour your heart on to the page knowing that someone you know may be reading. It was difficult at first, because I rarely share my personal feelings with anyone, never mind someone I hardly know. But then, if you are comfortable to share things with complete strangers on the web, why not people you know?
My main worry is my children… what happens if someone from the kids school reads my blog and use it to make fun of my them. Have I shared too much personal stuff about Neil’s ASD? I wonder how the kids will feel in a few years time that I’ve shared things about them, essentially without their permission… Think about how you felt as a teenager when your mam brought out the photo album, well now it’s not just photos. The stories and memories I share now which I think are cute… will they be totally embarrassed by it? Or are they growing up in to a world where sharing your life online is so common that they won’t even care?
But how do you blog anonymously, really? The only way to truly protect your families privacy would be to use no names, no pictures, only stories. But then, because I started my blog as a site all about my family and our adventures, no pictures wouldn’t really work. I know lots of people choose to change their children’s names, but I don’t understand this. Why is it ok to share personal photos, but not names?
I think I made the right choice. While I do still worry about my children, if there ever comes a time when one of them tells me they don’t like it there is always a delete button. And although I do still sometimes get a little embarrassed, it is nice to know that my boss enjoys my writing, or that another mum has watched my Youtube reviews and found them helpful for her family. I’m proud of my blog, and I don’t want to hide it! And I sincerely hope that in 5 or 10 years time my children will read my blog, and look at our photos and feel proud of the little piece of the internet that mummy created for them…. only time will tell.
How do you feel about this? What way did you decide to go? Would you go back and change your decision if you had the chance?
I would love to hear your thoughts…